Why rationalizing doesn’t help
Leaders are masters of rationalization.
They can explain every feeling.
Think away every doubt.
Make every fear logical.
“It’s not the right time yet.”
“The circumstances aren’t ideal.”
“I have to take care of this and that first.”
And all these explanations sound logical.
So logical that they start to believe them themselves.
But beneath that rationality lies something else.
Something that defies explanation.
Something that defies thinking.
Fear.
Fear that masquerades as wisdom.
Fear that presents itself as pragmatism.
Fear that justifies itself with logic.
And as long as they keep rationalizing, they remain where they don’t want to be.
Because rationalization isn’t thinking.
It’s avoidance.
Avoidance of feeling what’s truly there.
Avoidance of seeing what they already know.
Avoidance of choosing what they don’t dare to choose.
And that’s understandable.
Because feeling is scarier than thinking.
Feeling requires vulnerability.
Thinking gives the illusion of control.
But change doesn’t come from logic.
Change comes from daring to feel what your rationalization tries to
hide.
From the moment you stop explaining why it is.
And start acknowledging what you feel about how it is.
That moment—that moment of honesty over logic—that is where
transformation begins.
Not in the explanation.
But in what the explanation tries to conceal.
Please feel free to contact me if you need any help.
Sincerely,
Frederik
