How patterns arise

How patterns arise

Patterns are not who you are.
They are what you did when it worked.

You developed strategies.
Ways to deal with pressure, expectations, uncertainty.
And those strategies worked. For a while.

But contexts change.
And what worked then no longer works now.

Yet we continue to repeat the same patterns.
Not because we are stupid.
But because patterns are unconscious.

They are automated. Internalized.
They have become part of how we move through the world.

And that is why they are so difficult to change.
Not because they are stuck.
But because we don’t see them.

Making patterns visible is the first step towards change.
Without judgment. Without shame.
Just looking at what is.

And in that looking, space is created.
Space to choose differently.